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Old 03-14-2010, 06:21 PM   #76
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I think it can work if, as a number of people have already stated, both people are on the same page and know its strictly physical beyond friendship. The problem is, finding two people logical enough to maintain that boundary and keep the same perspective on the situation.

I agree with this. I think chances are highly likely one or the other will become emotionally attached. Maturity level has to come into play at this point. My thinking is...if I had a friend with benefits and wound up falling in love with him...I'm sure not going to do anything to harm him or his life. That wouldn't exactly be loving, would it? It would hurt if the feelings weren't reciprocated but I guess that is a risk you take with your heart.

Keep talking, going over ground rules, making sure each person is on the same page....
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Old 03-14-2010, 06:29 PM   #77
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It would work out great if the friend would go away after the benefit, and not want to hang around all the time.
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Old 03-14-2010, 06:34 PM   #78
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what a weird thread...I mean most of my friends I assume have benefits of some sort. But I don't typically get into things like "what sort of 401K plan do you have?" or "does your dental plan reimburse for cosmetic whitening" with them. It doesn't really matter to me, frankly. So what if your Cafeteria Plan doesn't include prescription eye glasses? We can still be friends.
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Old 03-20-2010, 11:47 PM   #79
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It works just fine with the right person - must be open to the idea, not looking for love and at least 50 miles away...
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Old 03-24-2010, 03:27 AM   #80
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It can work so long as both parties want the same thing and continue to want the same thing.
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Old 03-24-2010, 03:37 AM   #81
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i think u cant over think it.....and u only llive once.. if the chemestry is there. go for it.....being afraid to try .. well... it leaves u lonely doesnt it?
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Old 03-24-2010, 03:41 AM   #82
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How do pre-existing conditions play into all this??
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Old 03-24-2010, 03:43 AM   #83
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pre existing conditions only work in as you personally decide you want it to..or not to....i dont know how to explain my position but... i feel you personally have to decide if your goin there or not .. then when you do .. the 'friend' and you decide the rest.. its not the same decisions for any two people this is personal.. and all yours to work out.
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pre existing conditions only work in as you personally decide you want it to..or not to....i dont know how to explain my position but... i feel you personally have to decide if your goin there or not .. then when you do .. the 'friend' and you decide the rest.. its not the same decisions for any two people this is personal.. and all yours to work out.
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lol ok stop it...unless ur gonna clean my floors..
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ha depends if u intend to roll all over them?
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I think it can as long as each side knows exactly where the emotional line is.
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well forget the floor we can throw a blanket out . clean after! lol
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i think if you DON'T see each other everyday & have the understanding that you're meeting up for sex and Fu*k Buddy time is the extent of the relationship then why not? I know that's blunt, but that's my take on it. However, if you decide to take it to the relationship level, that's a whole other subject. You have to decide what you are or are not willing to risk & communicate that clearly.
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[color="Purple"]i think if you DON'T see each other everyday & have the understanding that you're meeting up for sex and Fu*k Buddy time is the extent if the relationship then why not? I know that's blunt, but that's my take on it.
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M?? Shame on you tryin to stir up trouble? . We have a very clear understanding & communicate really well even if we AREN'T talking about sex.
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M?? Shame on you tryin to stir up trouble? . We have a very clear understanding & communicate really well even if we AREN'T talking about sex.

Me? Trouble? No way! I'm impressed with cross-continental understanding!
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Me? Trouble? No way! I'm impressed with cross-continental understanding!
MSU!!! You are TROUBLE in all-caps, bold & italicized if I'd figured out how to do that on here. . Again, it's all about communication & similar expectations.
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MSU!!! You are TROUBLE in all-caps, bold & italicized if I'd figured out how to do that on here. . Again, it's all about communication & similar expectations.

AM NOT (click go advanced to do that...)

You are absolutely right on the answer; communication and I would even go as far as to say exactly the same expectations.

Now, when's your next cam availability?
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You are absolutely right on the answer; communication and I would even go as far as to say exactly the same expectations.

Now, when's your next cam availability?
You are so bad! I'm getting a computer (finally) on April 11th. We can discuss making "cam appointments" at that time. For you tho, I can always squeeze you in....so to speak.
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