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Old 10-10-2015, 09:02 PM   #1
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Being likeable has its benefits - you'll have an easier time scoring your dream job and making friends. Recently, Redditors shared some advice for making yourself more likeable. Here are some of the top tips:


1. They smile - a lot.
Seeing a smile makes other people happy, so if you're smiling when you're interacting with someone, he'll find you easy to like and friendly.


2. They ask people questions.
There's nothing people love more than to talk about themselves. They will find the conversation more memorable and positive if they spend time talking about themselves.



3. They pay attention.
Listen more to other people than you speak, and people will feel valued. Even if you're asking questions, people won't warm up to that if it seems you're not listening to what they're saying.


4. They remember names.
Names are such a core part of people's identity. Bringing their names up in the conversation will not only make them feel good, but they'll also appreciate the fact that you remember their names.


5. They repeat and reinforce.
Repeating what someone said to you and reinforcing it will help people feel validated. And that's all people want - validation.


6. They don't give unsolicited advice.
Give advice to people when they ask you for it. If you go around telling people your opinion, you can come across as being overbearing and bossy even if you're just trying to help. 7. They don't make everything a competition.
Trying to compete with everyone and one-up everything people say can quickly make you less likeable in their eyes.


8. They take responsibility.
If you make a mistake, take responsibility for it. Acknowledge it, and don't point the blame at someone else.



9. They get off their phones.
People appreciate undivided attention, because it makes them feel like you're truly listening to them. It makes them feel that you value their presence and time.


10. They don't make comparisons all the time and make it all about them.
Sometimes in an effort to relate to others, you can go overboard with comparisons. When someone tells you about their dog dying, you should listen with concern, because that's what they are seeking. If you chime in with a story of how your own dog died and how you were devastated so you know how they feel, the other person may feel that you're switching the topic back to you.


11. They don't keep interrupting.
You may get overexcited and interrupt people while they are talking, which can annoy them. It makes them feel that what they have to say is not that important to you.


12. They make eye contact.
Making the right amount of eye contact with someone can help them feel rapport with you. You'll also come across as being more confident and trustworthy.


13. They accept that other people will disagree with them.
Everyone has different opinions - learn to be OK with that. Your way may not always be the right way for others, so don't try to convince them that they're wrong. Embrace your differences.


14. They don't constantly seek sympathy and attention.
Likeable people don't need to constantly seek sympathy and attention to feel better about themselves.



15. They don't try too hard.
Focus on making yourself happy first, and people will gravitate toward you. If you try too hard, people can see through that.


16. They have good hygiene.
Wear clean clothes, brush your teeth, and take showers.
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Old 10-10-2015, 09:43 PM   #2
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I fall down on #4 and #6, but the rest I have covered. Though some of them you have to fight a natural instinct to pull off.
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Old 10-10-2015, 09:46 PM   #3
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Damn....I rock
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Old 10-10-2015, 09:57 PM   #4
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Damn .... Me too
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Old 10-10-2015, 10:17 PM   #5
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I suck at it........still likeable though.........and very modest
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Old 10-10-2015, 10:31 PM   #6
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was this a quiz?? ..I didn't get one right...
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Old 10-10-2015, 10:33 PM   #7
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I think I failed this class
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I think I failed this class
damn... I knew I shouldn't have cheated off your paper...
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damn... I knew I shouldn't have cheated off your paper...
I warned you but go back to the rules about paying attention
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Old 10-10-2015, 10:39 PM   #10
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I warned you but go back to the rules about paying attention
Don't you feel sorry for me???
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Don't you feel sorry for me???
Have I ever felt sorry for you ???? Wonder if the offer sped classes for this
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Old 10-10-2015, 10:52 PM   #12
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are you trying to tell us something
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are you trying to tell us something
No, but I'll give you something for free.

oh, wait.. you said *tell* us something.

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So do you have to have them all? I got about 13 out of 16 but I can try to learn how to smile...
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I'm more interested in the list of things likable people don't do
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I'm more interested in the list of things likable people don't do

Likable people DON'T like people that don't like people that don't like them
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I briefly read that as lickable… instead of likeable and thought how interesting this thread would be...
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I briefly read that as lickable… instead of likeable and thought how interesting this thread would be...
Oh likeable and lickable are close cousins
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I think the people I gravitate toward are consistent, privately and publicly.
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Oh likeable and lickable are close cousins
There are a lot of things I don't like.. but would lick anyway..
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I think the people I gravitate toward are consistent, privately and publicly.
you gravitate?? How is that done exactly?
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