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Old 09-23-2012, 12:46 PM   #51
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I guess I have never looked at it... I never strive to fit in, I strive to stand out... and if that means I fly solo at all times then let it be, I rather be with myself than with peeps I feel I have to change who I am to spend time with...
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Old 09-23-2012, 01:04 PM   #52
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Once upon a time, I used to feel like this was a place that I fit into. Like a pair of well worn, old familiar shoes. I could come in here with my problems or joy, either, and express them and they would be equally accepted. Now, I don't feel that any longer. It bothered me for a while. That "home" no longer felt like "home". Especially now with my daughter being sick again, I turned here for support and felt like there was none. But, I realized that it was wrong to expect it here.

You all are people in your real lives and I'm sure you are amazing and fallible and awesome and weak and everything that we all are every day, but you are still just that~ human beings. For me to rely on you for strength and assistance was wrong of me. You don't know me and I don't know you. Most of you anyway.

So do I belong here? As much as any of you do. But, did I expect too much from any of you? Probably as much as any of you do. Now I've been here long enough to know that with that expectation comes disappointment and, yes, a feeling that goes from feeling like I belong here like a part of a family to a member of a group of AA members.
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Old 09-23-2012, 05:03 PM   #53
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So, guys and gals Im just wondering who. if any of you feel like you don't fit in with the rest of the members on here?

I personally feel like I'm doing something wrong (although I won't be changing who I am anyway). I'd love to have a couple of girlfriends/guyfriends I'm not picky that I can joke around with, share stuff I don't want made public and debrief with) but no matter what I do I seem to be repelling people (that may be a little over dramatic!).

Does anyone feel this way? Or have you felt this way and been able to oversome it? If you've overcome it, explain how you did it....
Aww....why do you feel that, hon? You have 61 friends as of now, obviously people who were attracted to, not repelled by you!

I don't know if I fit in, but have had good conversations and laughs and made some friends. We are what we are. I never succumbed to peer pressure all my life, won't start now. I treat people with kindness and care. If they can't accept that, it's their problem. If someone forsakes me, it's their loss. And I accept the fact that I will not get along with everyone. It's natural.

It's always scary to put our hearts on our sleeves and reach out. But love yourself and they will love you.

p.s. I just friended you. You have 62 if you accept.
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Old 09-23-2012, 05:14 PM   #54
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LOL we do have so much in common scoob
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Old 09-23-2012, 05:15 PM   #55
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fitting in is about choosing to act like the crowd you're around. if u dont, then u wont
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Old 09-23-2012, 05:17 PM   #56
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Most of the time. I guess.
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Old 09-23-2012, 05:34 PM   #57
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I'd rather stand out then blend in with the crowd
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I actually felt that I fit right in right away, but I attribute that more to that's just my personality, and having been on the net' for years & years I knew how to blend in...

I also, although being able to blend, really have a furk off attitude if people don't like me....I'll still go on about no matter what.........
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Old 09-23-2012, 08:32 PM   #59
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I don't know if it was a matter of trying to fit in or not when I first joined, but I just wanted to have fun, be myself, and not care what people thought of me. I'm friendly with most, mutually can't stand a few, but only myself to less than 5. However, I figured out that when you no longer NEED this site to be happy, that's when you find it to be less exhausting and don't end up worrying about who the cool kids are or whether or not members of the opposite sex want you.

Remember this place is just like high school... the lunchroom is a bit larger, and the cliques are a bit more diverse, but there's no sense in wanting to be labeled something you're not. Be yourself and those who are meant to befriend you will. Try not to expect too much right away because you never know who you can count on, or whether or not they feel they can count on you.

Now from a purely hotness standpoint... I think you fit in just fine Oz. Just fine.
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Old 09-23-2012, 08:55 PM   #60
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Considering my length and girth, it's always tough to fit in.

Truth is, I'm content feeling tolerated.
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I fit in...with the right amount of lubrication...hayo!
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So, guys and gals Im just wondering who. if any of you feel like you don't fit in with the rest of the members on here?

I personally feel like I'm doing something wrong (although I won't be changing who I am anyway). I'd love to have a couple of girlfriends/guyfriends I'm not picky that I can joke around with, share stuff I don't want made public and debrief with) but no matter what I do I seem to be repelling people (that may be a little over dramatic!).

Does anyone feel this way? Or have you felt this way and been able to oversome it? If you've overcome it, explain how you did it....

Maybe you are taking this way too seriously. Just try to relax and have fun.
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Someone once quoted that "Man's unique agony as a species consist in his perpetual conflict between the desire to stand out and the need to blend in."
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Your cool OZ, don't trip girl.

I dunno what the heck people think of me anymore and I stopped worrying about it.
I hear all this talk about cliques and I never saw them or figured out who was in what clique because I look at people as individuals. I have been jerked around by a few that seem to be close knit so I'm getting the idea that perhaps over time I am being forced into a "clique" of sorts. If that is the case, it isn't by any choice of mine other than happening to be accepted by people I enjoy.
I'm open to enjoying everyone equally however.

People will choose to dislike me for any reason they need/want to.
I can't control that.
I try to treat people well, follow the "rules" and have fun.

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Old 09-23-2012, 09:51 PM   #65
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whether I fit in or not...I'm here, right now...till I go to bed
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I did the Site evaluation test before I entered.......I passed. Still not sure what the fuck passing meant....................
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He'll I don't fit in at all. I'm only accepted cuz of who I'm married to but I don't really care, I just come to reek havoc anyway
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I'd rather spend my time trying to stand out, rather than trying to fit in.
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Old 09-24-2012, 09:38 PM   #69
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Thats great that you feel that way Kraken, but some aren't built that way. I'm a very outgoing and friendly person and as I said can fit in everywhere. To suddently find myself in a situation where I don't kinda sucks.
I want to apologize to you as I meant to be supportive of you and dismissive of those who made you feel that way, i am sorry if i was dismissive of your feelings

You and Scoob are great, and i think you both rock
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Here? oh hell no!! I sure dont but thats not entirely a bad thing either.

Be your own person and the rest will fall into place. Just give it time.
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probably not

you can see some good friendships have been formed and it can be a bit difficult to join in

i am getting there slowly & have started to get into it a bit more

i dont really know you yet OZ but you can chat to me any time
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Not sure one can answer this question without pissing off someone, so to fit in I will say.....Hell, I have no idea!
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Oz from my point of view it seems like you fit in better than me.
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i'm not sure if i fit in or not... i have met a few people in the chat room and have gotten along with most, but posting in the forums seems to be a bit more impersonal.
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I've lived my life not fitting in. I used to be ashamed of that. Now I'm proud of it. I am who I am. I'm different, some people like that, some don't. Take me or leave me.
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