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Old 09-11-2011, 01:12 PM   #1
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There has got to be a solution to this sexual mismatch. I wonder how many ladies married to someone who doesn't satisfy them sexually (frequency and quality) vs the same stat for men. If it's close then I think we need some sort of tool to predict sexual drive before people get married.

If men and women were meeting each others needs then there would be very little porn or playboy or affairs.
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Old 09-11-2011, 01:14 PM   #2
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Old 09-11-2011, 01:18 PM   #4
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There has got to be a solution to this sexual mismatch. I wonder how many ladies married to someone who doesn't satisfy them sexually (frequency and quality) vs the same stat for men. If it's close then I think we need some sort of tool to predict sexual drive before people get married.

If men and women were meeting each others needs then there would be very little porn or playboy or affairs.
perhaps the trouble is with tool you have already lols??
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Old 09-11-2011, 09:09 PM   #6
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If men and women were meeting each others needs then there would be very little porn or playboy or affairs.
I wouldn't say those are, or have to be mutually inclusive.

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or is it mutually exclusive?

I always get them mixed up.

A grammar wonk will have to come and berate me

Whichever the case, one doesn't have to mean the other.

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Old 09-11-2011, 10:42 PM   #7
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I wouldn't say those are, or have to be mutually inclusive.

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or is it mutually exclusive?

I always get them mixed up.

A grammar wonk will have to come and berate me

Whichever the case, one doesn't have to mean the other.
That's what I was thinking...wait....or was it?
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That's what I was thinking...wait....or was it?
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Did she ever satisfy you there? Do you satisfy her? Sounds like some communication could help get things going in the right direction if you both want to have a better sex life.
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Old 09-12-2011, 10:38 AM   #10
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Being more worried about satisfying your wife, will lead to a better sex life for both of you. Unless she is a greedy little bitch, in which case why did you marry her.
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Old 09-12-2011, 12:58 PM   #11
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There has got to be a solution to this sexual mismatch. I wonder how many ladies married to someone who doesn't satisfy them sexually (frequency and quality) vs the same stat for men. If it's close then I think we need some sort of tool to predict sexual drive before people get married.

If men and women were meeting each others needs then there would be very little porn or playboy or affairs.

If I were you, I wouldn't hold my breath for any sort of solution. Unless, of course, neither person plans to grow and change.

Moral objections and health risks aside, I think DG has it right...test drive!! If each person had at least 3 partners prior to their intended, no marriage licenses allowed before the age or 25, and the license expired in 3 years (provided there are no children involved), then maybe.....
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Old 09-12-2011, 12:58 PM   #12
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Don't marry 'em....take them for a test drive, if the engine doesn't purr, move on to the next ride
Problem is that after 7 years or 72K miles you eralize the ride is not that good and wish for a new model that is more fun.

Solution? Don't get married. Just live together and sign a pre-nup. And don't have kids undless you intend to marry.
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I ran across my ex wife several months ago and she was looking really good. When we divorced we were both tired of each other and sex was bad. Funny thing how time changes things.
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Am I missing something here, isn't the hand the cure for sexual frustration?
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Old 09-12-2011, 01:33 PM   #15
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Old 09-12-2011, 01:36 PM   #16
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I ran across my ex wife several months ago and she was looking really good. When we divorced we were both tired of each other and sex was bad. Funny thing how time changes things.
Time and sadly, when the situation is bad, getting out of it can give you a brighter outlook on things and be generally more happy!

But I guess sex is now good huh?
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In my personal view a marriage will change just like body size will. Now if you fight the change life will be hard . Sure you get what you want but what price . She will say your a controling person, and not like you anymore . Cus you change the wrong way . I'm not saying let the other walk all over you but if you don't let it change there will be trouble
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Well, my wife and I (we're 14 years together, 10 married) spent a lot of time for the first five, six, seven(?) years of our lives together making like rabbits as often as we could. Saturday morning... wake up, make coffee, some pancakes, back to bed! Wednesday evening... dinner and the best kind of dessert! We were young and in love, we did it all the time. And then, life sets in... careers advance, working hours get longer, then you start having kids, you're exhausted, even if the desire is there, sometimes it's hard to find the time. This is normal. Frustrating, but normal. You have to work really hard to keep the passion lit. Would I like to have more sex that we do now? You know it! If we get busy once a week (usually a weekend night) that's doing pretty good. lately it's been less, and I get frustrated (hey I'm here on this site right?) but then last night, she pulled out the massage oil and we had an amazing time. So for both of us the desire is there (definitely more on my part than hers, just because she tends to be more tired than me) but not always the wherewithal. I still think she and I are very compatible sexually, always have been, but life gets in the way. I hope that as our kids grow up we'll have more "us time", and I am confident that we will. Just have to muddle through it.
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There has got to be a solution to this sexual mismatch. I wonder how many ladies married to someone who doesn't satisfy them sexually (frequency and quality) vs the same stat for men. If it's close then I think we need some sort of tool to predict sexual drive before people get married.

If men and women were meeting each others needs then there would be very little porn or playboy or affairs.
Oh what I wouldn't give!
What I don't understand is if it were the reverse and I was the one with the low sex drive I would still see to my partners needs.
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My husband and I used to have amazing sex....all the time 24/7 if we could. Then he was assulted and suffered a severe head injury and 10 years later his stamina still hasn't come back, he lasts minutes, then gets upset and disappointed that he never could please me and now we both have given up hope that it will ever be the same. Oh and life and stress that comes with life tends to but a huge gap between us so there isn't any intamacy at all any more and without any kind of affection...I can't have sex
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