How do you protect yourself from being crushed here on M&F? - Page 12

laineycali · 04-04-2008, 02:45 AM

alot of good points here.. all i can say is for me .. i did meet someone not on here.. we didnt intend to get too close.. but over years we did...somehow it got twisted.. confussed and then we lost it .. we let it go ..i think we never expressed ourselves when things got difficult.. I think.. both have to keep checking in with them selves and the other person.. where r u .. how r u feeling about the 'us' of this.. alot of openness.. you can do the only for fun thing its very doable.. or u can do the deeper thing.. but remember if ur both otherwise married .. u have other people that have to be in this equation... even if they dont know .. no getting around it and no u cant go like that lady did and put on craigs list that u want to hire someone to 'get rid' of the others spouse.. u cant get that carried away.....u gotta laugh .. OK .. im done preachin........sorry for the long one

fly · 04-04-2008, 02:51 AM

Don't fall in love.
Don't get attached.
Don't trust anyone.
Don't let down your guard for ANY reason.........

spare_change · 04-04-2008, 02:55 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by flybabe

Don't fall in love.
Don't get attached.
Don't trust anyone.
Don't let down your guard for ANY reason.........

Yeah, that'll get it done ----

... so will

Don't breathe
Don't feel
Don't experience
Don't live

fever · 04-04-2008, 04:48 AM

I think it's a tough call...many of us are here b/c we're vunerable and looking for a connection at the same time. But I agree with the general sentiment...it's not a good idea to stop feeling in order to stop from feeling badly. For me, the risk is worth taking...

spare_change · 04-04-2008, 06:28 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by fever

I think it's a tough call...many of us are here b/c we're vunerable and looking for a connection at the same time. But I agree with the general sentiment...it's not a good idea to stop feeling in order to stop from feeling badly. For me, the risk is worth taking...

A gambler, huh?

MrCoy · 04-04-2008, 01:20 PM

I wear one of these:

CuriousOne · 04-05-2008, 06:30 PM

[quote=MrCoy;932559]I wear one of these:

************************
I can see it already. MrCoy sitting in front of the computer wearing one of those.

MrCoy · 04-05-2008, 08:16 PM

Hey don't laugh! It works ... but it does have one weakness .. it's kryponite per se

.....smoking hot latinas

Dir · 04-05-2008, 08:23 PM

[quote=MrCoy;932559]I wear one of these:

********************

1hotmommy · 04-05-2008, 08:32 PM

I wish I knew a solution. Unfortunately I fall under this category, so if anyone has any advice, I'd appreciate it.

pointofnoreturn · 04-05-2008, 09:29 PM

[quote=MrCoy;932559]I wear one of these:

*******************lmao

pointofnoreturn · 04-05-2008, 09:31 PM

the best way not to get crushed is to not care or not be here. Neither of which I care to do......Take the good with the bad...Always more good to be had...Poet...I know it...

for those who are sad..

paris · 04-05-2008, 09:35 PM

I wish I knew the answer to this question! The pain can be pretty hard to get thru (speaking from experience) but the memories of the good times that came before keeps me coming back.

Sweetdreams069 · 04-05-2008, 09:36 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by paris

I wish I knew the answer to this question! The pain can be pretty hard to get thru (speaking from experience) but the memories of the good times that came before keeps me coming back.

Ditto

scoobertina · 04-05-2008, 09:37 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by spare_change

Yeah, that'll get it done ----

... so will

Don't breathe
Don't feel
Don't experience
Don't live

always one to send the knife deep into the heart aren't you?

but I happen to agree... finally..

scoobertina · 04-05-2008, 09:38 PM

you can't... plain and simple.. you are going to meet someone here who fulfills your every desire.. someone who really finds out about you... you are going to care deeply for that person... go with it.. make yourself happy for a small time... but be ready to let go when the time comes...

pointofnoreturn · 04-05-2008, 09:39 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by scoobertina

always one to send the knife deep into the heart aren't you?

but I happen to agree... finally..

And always remember there are people here who love you....

househub · 04-05-2008, 09:56 PM

the first time you cant protect yourself since you have no idea, the second time you should have a clue but you do it anyway, the third time its all you own fault,.....

GSDman · 04-05-2008, 11:54 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by paris

I wish I knew the answer to this question! The pain can be pretty hard to get thru (speaking from experience) but the memories of the good times that came before keeps me coming back.

Or.... you could cut to the chase, and find someone you feel really comfortable with.

I think sometimes you can "click" so quickly with someone that "things happen" before you can step back and think about it. (Then again, sometimes I think things happen for a reason, and your brain has nothing to do with it)

Being new, I haven't been subjected to this "torment" but I also think that sometimes I am just one of those people who isn't meant to feel love, or to be loved. I am only 35, and I feel like I am an old man for all the crap I have had to deal with in my life. It's not that I am a bad person, it just fustrates me sometimes how "life" works out sometimes. (Maybe I am being punished for a past life.. LOL)
I just want to find someone who gives me affection and appreciates me for just being who I am. Hopefully things work out here....(crossing fingers)

Han Solo · 04-06-2008, 12:23 AM

There is no better protection than having your own happiness and being happy with yourself first! If you have confidence in yourself and respect for yourself FIRST and foremost than I'm not sure WHO can crush you? You can be sad, disappointed, hurt or any of those other bad things that come from a broken relationship.......but crushed?? Not if you are happy with your own self first, not if you are confident with your own self first....not if you have the strength do anything on your own first.............

Yeah, yeah, yeah.........what do I know.....I always had Chewy helping me right?!

marriedwomanchaser · 04-06-2008, 12:23 AM

old saying of no pain no gain applies here for sure

cherokeered · 04-06-2008, 12:34 AM

Don't think anyone can crush a person...damage their ego and hurt them yes...but people heal, wounds heal and even broken hearts heal.....we move on in life
Unless you never interact with anyone there really isn't a way to keep from being hurt or disappointed

Rays · 04-06-2008, 08:34 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by scoobertina

you can't... plain and simple.. you are going to meet someone here who fulfills your every desire.. someone who really finds out about you... you are going to care deeply for that person... go with it.. make yourself happy for a small time... but be ready to let go when the time comes...

Great point. Most of our relationships are going to end at some point. So enjoy the time together now.

Lacey · 04-07-2008, 01:05 PM

I've come to the conclusion that with online relationships.....in the end it seems.......you get hurt or you end up hurting someone else ......without it ever meaning to go that way.

Shawn · 04-07-2008, 01:11 PM

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04-04-2008, 02:51 AM	#277
fly Well hello Mr. Mister.... Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: In my own make believe land. it's warm in here. No wait.....I'm standing over the vent. CRAP!!! Age: 45 Posts: 11,722 Thanks: 2,527 Thanked 1,744 Times in 1,063 Posts	Don't fall in love. Don't get attached. Don't trust anyone. Don't let down your guard for ANY reason......... __________________ you must be kinda specialicious er sumthin...

04-04-2008, 01:20 PM	#281
MrCoy Super Duper Flirt Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Arizona (M) Age: 41 Posts: 615 Thanks: 5 Thanked 7 Times in 7 Posts	I wear one of these: Last edited by MrCoy; 04-06-2008 at 12:53 AM. Reason: is this pic ok?

04-05-2008, 06:30 PM	#282
CuriousOne Flirting Princess Join Date: Feb 2008 Age: 41 Posts: 1,099 Thanks: 85 Thanked 72 Times in 64 Posts	[quote=MrCoy;932559]I wear one of these: ************************ I can see it already. MrCoy sitting in front of the computer wearing one of those. Last edited by MCat; 04-05-2008 at 09:39 PM. Reason: children in the photo

04-05-2008, 08:23 PM	#284
Dir Flirting God Join Date: Dec 2007 Age: 53 Posts: 1,985 Thanks: 69 Thanked 37 Times in 28 Posts	[quote=MrCoy;932559]I wear one of these: ******************** Last edited by MCat; 04-05-2008 at 09:39 PM. Reason: children in the photo

04-05-2008, 09:29 PM	#286
pointofnoreturn Flirting God Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Evidentally where you aren't..:( Age: 56 Posts: 19,257 Thanks: 1,943 Thanked 1,511 Times in 1,280 Posts Blog Entries: 18	[quote=MrCoy;932559]I wear one of these: ******************lmao Last edited by MCat; 04-05-2008 at 09:39 PM. Reason: children in the photo*

04-04-2008, 02:45 AM	#276
laineycali the ole girl is back.. Join Date: Jan 2008 Age: 55 Posts: 3,025 Thanks: 228 Thanked 361 Times in 309 Posts Blog Entries: 1	alot of good points here.. all i can say is for me .. i did meet someone not on here.. we didnt intend to get too close.. but over years we did...somehow it got twisted.. confussed and then we lost it .. we let it go ..i think we never expressed ourselves when things got difficult.. I think.. both have to keep checking in with them selves and the other person.. where r u .. how r u feeling about the 'us' of this.. alot of openness.. you can do the only for fun thing its very doable.. or u can do the deeper thing.. but remember if ur both otherwise married .. u have other people that have to be in this equation... even if they dont know .. no getting around it and no u cant go like that lady did and put on craigs list that u want to hire someone to 'get rid' of the others spouse.. u cant get that carried away.....u gotta laugh .. OK .. im done preachin........sorry for the long one

04-04-2008, 04:48 AM	#279
fever At the edge of the abyss Join Date: Mar 2008 Age: 52 Posts: 12,907 Thanks: 1,569 Thanked 2,741 Times in 1,836 Posts	I think it's a tough call...many of us are here b/c we're vunerable and looking for a connection at the same time. But I agree with the general sentiment...it's not a good idea to stop feeling in order to stop from feeling badly. For me, the risk is worth taking...

04-05-2008, 08:16 PM	#283
MrCoy Super Duper Flirt Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Arizona (M) Age: 41 Posts: 615 Thanks: 5 Thanked 7 Times in 7 Posts	Hey don't laugh! It works ... but it does have one weakness .. it's kryponite per se .....smoking hot latinas

04-05-2008, 08:32 PM	#285
1hotmommy Flirting God Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Illinois Age: 37 Posts: 550 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	I wish I knew a solution. Unfortunately I fall under this category, so if anyone has any advice, I'd appreciate it.

04-05-2008, 09:31 PM	#287
pointofnoreturn Flirting God Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Evidentally where you aren't..:( Age: 56 Posts: 19,257 Thanks: 1,943 Thanked 1,511 Times in 1,280 Posts Blog Entries: 18	the best way not to get crushed is to not care or not be here. Neither of which I care to do......Take the good with the bad...Always more good to be had...Poet...I know it... for those who are sad..

04-05-2008, 09:35 PM	#288
paris Flirting God Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: New York Age: 54 Posts: 2,363 Thanks: 44 Thanked 26 Times in 24 Posts	I wish I knew the answer to this question! The pain can be pretty hard to get thru (speaking from experience) but the memories of the good times that came before keeps me coming back.

04-05-2008, 09:38 PM	#291
scoobertina scoobalicious Join Date: Apr 2007 Age: 53 Posts: 77,620 Thanks: 21,209 Thanked 18,197 Times in 12,312 Posts Blog Entries: 87	you can't... plain and simple.. you are going to meet someone here who fulfills your every desire.. someone who really finds out about you... you are going to care deeply for that person... go with it.. make yourself happy for a small time... but be ready to let go when the time comes... __________________

04-05-2008, 09:56 PM	#293
househub Flirting God Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: in the middle Age: 58 Posts: 1,905 Thanks: 7 Thanked 149 Times in 125 Posts	the first time you cant protect yourself since you have no idea, the second time you should have a clue but you do it anyway, the third time its all you own fault,.....

04-06-2008, 12:23 AM	#295
Han Solo Back in Meh-Trocity Join Date: Aug 2007 Age: 47 Posts: 22,138 Thanks: 1,944 Thanked 7,717 Times in 4,830 Posts	There is no better protection than having your own happiness and being happy with yourself first! If you have confidence in yourself and respect for yourself FIRST and foremost than I'm not sure WHO can crush you? You can be sad, disappointed, hurt or any of those other bad things that come from a broken relationship.......but crushed?? Not if you are happy with your own self first, not if you are confident with your own self first....not if you have the strength do anything on your own first............. Yeah, yeah, yeah.........what do I know.....I always had Chewy helping me right?! __________________ I don't hate people. I just feel better when they aren't around.

04-06-2008, 12:23 AM	#296
marriedwomanchaser Always Looking For Better Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: ON THE CORNER OF WALK AND DON'T WALK Age: 63 Posts: 917 Thanks: 20 Thanked 37 Times in 35 Posts	old saying of no pain no gain applies here for sure

04-06-2008, 12:34 AM	#297
cherokeered this space for rent I Love It Here Join Date: Apr 2006 Age: 56 Posts: 28,024 Thanks: 259 Thanked 801 Times in 605 Posts	Don't think anyone can crush a person...damage their ego and hurt them yes...but people heal, wounds heal and even broken hearts heal.....we move on in life Unless you never interact with anyone there really isn't a way to keep from being hurt or disappointed

04-07-2008, 01:05 PM	#299
Lacey .. Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 5,603 Thanks: 1,288 Thanked 983 Times in 711 Posts Blog Entries: 3	I've come to the conclusion that with online relationships.....in the end it seems.......you get hurt or you end up hurting someone else ......without it ever meaning to go that way. __________________ *"You mess with me I will FCK you up with my wicked hottness!" --Ter-MAN-ator I may have issues.....but you're pretty messed up too!**

04-07-2008, 01:11 PM	#300
Shawn Forum Surfer Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Greatest place on earth Age: 47 Posts: 25,043 Thanks: 7,624 Thanked 17,608 Times in 9,224 Posts Blog Entries: 58	For M&F online protection, please use the special online M&F condoms coming soon to a store near you! __________________ My Life is just a bunch of "It seemed like a good idea at the time" strung together.