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Old 08-16-2010, 05:14 AM   #1
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I was reading through another thread, and I noticed that many posters had spouses & partners who don't like to kiss and it got me thinking...

I noticed early on in my marriage that Mrs. was shying away from kissing. And I've also heard a lot of other stories, where kissing was the first thing to stop in a once-steamy relationship.

So...is kissing more intimate than actual sex? I'm not talking about the kiss you give Aunt Mabel when you see her at Thanksgiving, or the kiss you give to your spouse on the way out the door when you go to work in the morning. I'm talking about what we called "French" kissing back in the day...hot, tongue teasing, erotic kissing?
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Old 08-16-2010, 07:21 AM   #2
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Not more intimate certainly, but I think it's more of an acid test of how you're feeling. It is possible to go through the motions for sex...but I don't know how you can kiss half-heartedly.
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Old 08-16-2010, 07:27 AM   #3
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I think it is sometimes... my husband won't kiss me, but he'll roll in the hay with me every other month... I'd trade that gladly for some kissing, the closeness...
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Old 08-16-2010, 08:04 AM   #4
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Kissing and staring into each others eyes is the most sensual part of sex to me.
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Old 08-16-2010, 08:07 AM   #5
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I love lying next to her after having sex with our arms and legs wrapped around kissing and enjoying the moment......
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Old 08-16-2010, 08:09 AM   #6
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There is no pleasure from sex for me without kissing... Kissing is something which bonds souls, without which bonding of bodies is bleak.
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Old 08-16-2010, 08:47 AM   #7
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Most the time kissing is just little pecks on the cheeks or lips. Which is ok, but I prefer to have a bit/lot of tongue when I kiss. If I want that I have to ask for it. Then I get "oh you mean making out"
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Old 08-16-2010, 09:02 AM   #8
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I noticed early on in my marriage that Mrs. was shying away from kissing. And I've also heard a lot of other stories, where kissing was the first thing to stop in a once-steamy relationship.
Interesting observation LB. My wife was really into French kissing for years and was very good at it too. Yet, she completely stopped when she got pregnant. She didn't want to chance catching the flu or anything else I might bring home from the office. And after 9 months it just became her habit never to kiss.

I don't think kissing diminished for lack of passion, but rather that passion diminished for lack of kissing.
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Old 08-16-2010, 09:27 AM   #9
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Kissing and staring into each others eyes is the most sensual part of sex to me.

I agree. My hubby hates to kiss, which after all the kissing we did at the beginning of our relationship I just don't understand!

I love kissing, more than the act of sex itself (which I don't get anymore so it's good I don't care.)
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Old 08-16-2010, 10:27 AM   #10
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I think it is sometimes... my husband won't kiss me, but he'll roll in the hay with me every other month... I'd trade that gladly for some kissing, the closeness...
Tempest, I will totally kiss you.
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Old 08-16-2010, 10:29 AM   #11
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I totally think sex without kissing is not as intimate. Kissing is something that has to be shared. You can have one person not into the sex and it still happen. If one isn't into the kiss.. then the intimacy just isn't there.
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Old 08-16-2010, 10:29 AM   #12
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I miss kissing.....& I'm just gonna leave it at that....lol....
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Old 08-16-2010, 10:50 AM   #13
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Kissing is intimate part of love making sometimes. Sex with out kissing is usually just a quick fuck or a one nighter with someone you really don't care about. In my opinion
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Old 08-16-2010, 10:55 AM   #14
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one of the first questions i ask of a woman is
do you love kissing

if she hesitates all is lost

my wife oes not kiss intimately and i love kissing
those long sensuous kisses that lead to more

is the most intimate part of sex in my opinion
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Old 08-16-2010, 05:21 PM   #15
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I think a good, full-on kiss requires more passion than sex - it conveys more feeling. Mouths can also seem more private spaces and closer to our minds, so you might want to protect them more from feeling invaded.

Sex should be as emotional as kissing, yet it can become unconnected in a poor relationship and still take place. Kissing can never be so distant; you can't receive an unloving kiss and kid yourself.

Sex can be bought and sold - devoid of love - whereas truly tender touches are beyond trade. A good kiss also requires decent technique and oral hygiene...something people are perhaps more willing to compromise over when in the throws of sex.

But I don't think kissing is always more intimate. You might kiss a lot of people, but sleep with few, as sex takes a bigger degree of trust. And you're more likely to be forgiven for kissing another person than for sleeping with them.
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if you are doing it right it can be so much more intimate then having sex. The closeness of it, the eyes being able to lock on to each other quickly. It takes a certain amount of grace and style to be a good kisser which can be far more sexy then body parts just banging away at each other, not that banging away at each other cant be fun as well.
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Old 08-16-2010, 05:41 PM   #17
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kissing is much more intimate than sex. my wife won't do it. the only times we have really made out was when she was drunk.
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Serioulsy only if your Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman!


Kissing is all the good stuff...if i let him stick his dick in my holiest of holies then you betcha I think we are way more intimate than a kiss!
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Old 08-16-2010, 05:44 PM   #19
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To me it is more intimate than sex. Because you can connect on a different level. Its more emotional and loving. Sex is too, but to me kissing is more intimate. I ♥ kissing..
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Kissing more intimate than sex???

Seems to me we have a lot of people here who have Picture in Picture on their Bedroom TV's............is sex now likened to riding an exercise bike while watching Desperate Housewives and ESPN to pass the time??
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Kissing, real kissing, take your breath away, heart pounding sensuous, l am all about you kissing is one the most intimate things a couple can do. Done that way it's more intimate than sex.

A prostitute will screw you but she won't kiss you. They save that for the one they love.
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I really do think most people arent having sex the right way! I love kissing too and nice usage of the ♥ jane doe, but seriously...SEX is amazing!
Maybe I am just as great at it as I always suspected...hmmm
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I think kissing is more intimate and emotional, now with the right person it all combines for a better experience but those kisses wont go to just anyone
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I think kissing is more intimate and emotional, now with the right person it all combines for a better experience but those kisses wont go to just anyone
Well if you are asking them for money i think you should kiss em! Just saying! LOL
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Well sure if moneys involved I might be willing too lol
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