If you get divorced from your current spouse, would you ever remarry? - Page 2

AL(m) · 09-28-2008, 02:55 PM

Would have to say nope to this one..... rather just enjoy life and all that it brings.... or doesnt bring......

fever · 09-28-2008, 03:26 PM

I actually believe in serial monogamy, but I don't think I need the piece of paper. If I were to ever get divorced I think I'd rather live with the next one. I'm betting taking it all apart is a little less messy...

WandaRing · 09-28-2008, 03:47 PM

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Originally Posted by YoungstownArea

I say hell no. This is my second and last marriage. If it ends, I would be crazy to ever remarry. I will live with a woman without ever getting married.

This question I ask

to all of you.

I think it would take time and healing for me before I even consider having a relationship that leads to marriage. It was not marriage that was wrong for me it was the person and my choices.

I've never understood why people think that living together is different then a marriage, just because you live together without a ceremony or a legal piece of paper does not mean you don't have the same kind of loving relationship, respect or responsibilities to each other and in this day and age it's just as hard to legally get out of a common-law-relationship.

gina99 · 09-28-2008, 04:35 PM

No..............i don't think i'd marry again. Just living together would make more sense for me.

sweetnspicy · 09-28-2008, 05:52 PM

this is my second marraige...and have no plans on ending it...if it did, and i found the right person i would probably say yes to re-marraige

My_Secrets_Kept · 09-28-2008, 05:59 PM

With things the way they are currently during attempting to end this marriage, my answer is no. That isn't to say that I wouldn't consider it later on down the road, but nope, no time soon would I even consider it.

Luna · 09-28-2008, 06:26 PM

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Originally Posted by fever

I actually believe in serial monogamy, but I don't think I need the piece of paper. If I were to ever get divorced I think I'd rather live with the next one.

Ditto!

amistosa · 09-28-2008, 06:29 PM

I can't remember what the purpose of marriage actually is. Could someone remind me?

Luna · 09-28-2008, 06:42 PM

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Originally Posted by amistosa

I can't remember what the purpose of marriage actually is. Could someone remind me?

LOL.. yes, in hind site, I often wonder myself. I know I wanted to be married to have my children, to make things easier. Back then I needed the sense of security and level of commitment it seemed to offer.

Wil · 09-28-2008, 06:46 PM

amistosa · 09-28-2008, 07:01 PM

Where do I go for further light and knowledge? You guys seem to be all out

RedVixen · 09-28-2008, 07:19 PM

Live with someone - yes....remarry? NO

rj1002 · 09-28-2008, 07:23 PM

It’s a very tough question for me. It’s also totally hypothetical, since I’ve tossed the question of divorce around in my head long enough to know I’m never going there, at least not voluntarily.

I’m certain that I would eventually find myself in a marital-type relationship. I’m monogamous by nature and would want to have someone to share my life with. I’m also certain that I’d be much more selective the second time around, making sure that we were a better fit for each other, especially making sure that we had similar views of the importance of love-making (not necessarily sex, but giving loving attention to each other) in a relationship.

That being said, if I were convinced that I had found someone whom I wanted to be with indefinitely, it would be my preference to make that official, although I’d be willing to bend if it were something she didn’t want.

cherokeered · 09-28-2008, 08:09 PM

not sure....guess it would depend on a few things...but certainly not right away.....need time

msu · 09-28-2008, 08:13 PM

Can only see myself remarrying if I become a widow.....and I'd look for more companionship than other things. Fave said it well earlier, I don't want to be age 80 and be alone.

sweet · 09-28-2008, 08:19 PM

Assuming my current marriage were to end....it would all depend on if I met a special man who would make me want to be married again, then I might consider getting re-married.

hootergirl · 09-28-2008, 10:12 PM

i would say hell no to that or if i would fine the right one that would treat me like a gueen i might say yes but i dont think so maybe live with only!!!!!!!!!!!!!

navigater · 09-29-2008, 01:49 AM

I will never say never but it would take someone really special..

Icarus · 09-29-2008, 07:43 AM

I'll just quote myself. Bumpin' my post count with none of the effort.

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Originally Posted by Icarus

I don't anticipate being single again, but have thought about how I would handle it. If I were single again, I don't think I would get married a second time. I'd be more than willing to get into a long term, monogamous, relationship. But, I would feel no compulsion to get married. Conversely, I would also have fun going out with some arm candy.

On a side note, if my hypothetical single self of the future had the opportunity to travel back and give advice to my single self of the past, I would still recommend getting married. I guess I just have the view that there is a finite window in which to start a family and I'm getting beyond that window.

NotTooGirly · 09-29-2008, 12:48 PM

I will go Icarus one better and quote a movie instead of myself:

Quote:

Girl: "I would rather be with someone for the wrong reasons, than alone for the right ones."

Guy: "I would rather be right."

What he said.

airborne soldier · 09-29-2008, 12:59 PM

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Originally Posted by RedVixen

Live with someone - yes....remarry? NO

I agree totally!

sandicheeks · 09-29-2008, 01:03 PM

NO WAY!

Frenchie_lady · 09-29-2008, 01:18 PM

I've been thinking how to respond to this thread and well, not sure i'll make more sense now that I have had time to think about it lol

I'm catholic, and if i was to ever remarry, it would have to be before a judge. But ultimately, what does getting married gives more to the union? I mean, what presently holds me to my husband is my daughter, not the marriage it self.

A short few months ago, I would have said that I would not have even wanted to live with any other man after hubby. But now, the situation is a bit different.

That proves to me that i can't give a definite answer to that, because things change, people change.

Right now though, i would live with the man i love, but probably wouldn't remarry unless it was very important to him, and it would be a very small thing.

cherri · 09-29-2008, 01:29 PM

I admit to giving this question some serious thought. I'm still on my first marriage of eleven years. It's been in the crash and burn stage for two years. Believe it or not, I do miss being married. Having someone there, not sleeping on opposite edges of the bed, but really having someone there. I always said I believe in not making the same mistake twice. And I have a fear of going down that road again. But with the right person, that fear subsides, and the hope comes back. The hope that marriage can be a good thing when two people work together instead of against eachother. So my answer is ...yes, if it's with the right man. The right man being someone I can raise a family with. Someone I can grow old with. Someone I can trust to be there to love me and take care of me. If he didn't want to get married, then I would be content with playing house and living in sin. If he did want marriage, then I would consider it, but I would never push the issue.

TammyE · 09-29-2008, 02:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Sensual Woman

Yes. But I would be more careful about who this time, and not settle for someone who I thought at the time would be good for me.

This is me exactly. I'd have to be totally head-over-heels in love the next time, or no go.

09-28-2008, 02:55 PM	#26
AL(m) Gentleman first.... Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Canada Eh! Age: 65 Posts: 3,878 Thanks: 19 Thanked 65 Times in 54 Posts	Would have to say nope to this one..... rather just enjoy life and all that it brings.... or doesnt bring...... __________________ “Meddle not in the affairs of the dragon; for you are crunchy and taste good with ketchup.”

09-28-2008, 03:26 PM	#27
fever At the edge of the abyss Join Date: Mar 2008 Age: 51 Posts: 12,907 Thanks: 1,569 Thanked 2,741 Times in 1,836 Posts	I actually believe in serial monogamy, but I don't think I need the piece of paper. If I were to ever get divorced I think I'd rather live with the next one. I'm betting taking it all apart is a little less messy... __________________

09-28-2008, 05:52 PM	#30
sweetnspicy flirting goddess Join Date: Jun 2008 Age: 47 Posts: 2,247 Thanks: 192 Thanked 207 Times in 192 Posts Blog Entries: 1	this is my second marraige...and have no plans on ending it...if it did, and i found the right person i would probably say yes to re-marraige __________________

09-28-2008, 05:59 PM	#31
My_Secrets_Kept shhhh... it's a Secret.. Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: where do you want me to be? Age: 43 Posts: 7,886 Thanks: 383 Thanked 371 Times in 270 Posts Blog Entries: 4	With things the way they are currently during attempting to end this marriage, my answer is no. That isn't to say that I wouldn't consider it later on down the road, but nope, no time soon would I even consider it. __________________

09-28-2008, 06:46 PM	#35
Wil Flirting God Join Date: May 2007 Location: north of The City Age: 59 Posts: 3,214 Thanks: 93 Thanked 91 Times in 87 Posts	nope __________________ "All the world's a stage and most of us are desperately unrehearsed." - Sean O'Casey

09-28-2008, 04:35 PM	#29
gina99 Flirting God Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: ohio Age: 52 Posts: 506 Thanks: 1 Thanked 53 Times in 41 Posts	No..............i don't think i'd marry again. Just living together would make more sense for me.

09-28-2008, 06:29 PM	#33
amistosa Married And Flirting Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: usa Age: 58 Posts: 8 Thanks: 3 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	I can't remember what the purpose of marriage actually is. Could someone remind me?

09-28-2008, 07:01 PM	#36
amistosa Married And Flirting Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: usa Age: 58 Posts: 8 Thanks: 3 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Where do I go for further light and knowledge? You guys seem to be all out

09-28-2008, 07:19 PM	#37
RedVixen On hiatus.... Join Date: Dec 2006 Age: 46 Posts: 7,293 Thanks: 311 Thanked 433 Times in 358 Posts Blog Entries: 6	Live with someone - yes....remarry? NO __________________

09-28-2008, 07:23 PM	#38
rj1002 Flirting God Join Date: May 2008 Location: Los Angeles - San Fernando Valley Age: 64 Posts: 1,630 Thanks: 155 Thanked 570 Times in 357 Posts	It’s a very tough question for me. It’s also totally hypothetical, since I’ve tossed the question of divorce around in my head long enough to know I’m never going there, at least not voluntarily. I’m certain that I would eventually find myself in a marital-type relationship. I’m monogamous by nature and would want to have someone to share my life with. I’m also certain that I’d be much more selective the second time around, making sure that we were a better fit for each other, especially making sure that we had similar views of the importance of love-making (not necessarily sex, but giving loving attention to each other) in a relationship. That being said, if I were convinced that I had found someone whom I wanted to be with indefinitely, it would be my preference to make that official, although I’d be willing to bend if it were something she didn’t want.

09-28-2008, 08:09 PM	#39
cherokeered this space for rent I Love It Here Join Date: Apr 2006 Age: 55 Posts: 28,024 Thanks: 259 Thanked 801 Times in 605 Posts	not sure....guess it would depend on a few things...but certainly not right away.....need time

09-28-2008, 08:13 PM	#40
msu enjoying today.... Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Mid-Atlantic Age: 50 Posts: 23,178 Thanks: 9,450 Thanked 6,389 Times in 5,366 Posts Blog Entries: 1	Can only see myself remarrying if I become a widow.....and I'd look for more companionship than other things. Fave said it well earlier, I don't want to be age 80 and be alone. __________________

09-28-2008, 08:19 PM	#41
sweet ♥ Join Date: Feb 2006 Age: 38 Posts: 13,060 Thanks: 5,083 Thanked 2,619 Times in 1,652 Posts	Assuming my current marriage were to end....it would all depend on if I met a special man who would make me want to be married again, then I might consider getting re-married.

09-28-2008, 10:12 PM	#42
hootergirl Married And Flirting Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: PA Age: 60 Posts: 59 Thanks: 0 Thanked 5 Times in 5 Posts	i would say hell no to that or if i would fine the right one that would treat me like a gueen i might say yes but i dont think so maybe live with only!!!!!!!!!!!!!

09-29-2008, 01:49 AM	#43
navigater Flirting God Join Date: Apr 2008 Age: 51 Posts: 6,778 Thanks: 483 Thanked 901 Times in 718 Posts	I will never say never but it would take someone really special..

09-29-2008, 01:03 PM	#47
sandicheeks Married And Flirting Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: texas Age: 39 Posts: 35 Thanks: 1 Thanked 4 Times in 2 Posts	NO WAY!

09-29-2008, 01:18 PM	#48
Frenchie_lady in love with my freak! Join Date: May 2008 Age: 47 Posts: 22,512 Thanks: 2,822 Thanked 3,548 Times in 2,558 Posts	I've been thinking how to respond to this thread and well, not sure i'll make more sense now that I have had time to think about it lol I'm catholic, and if i was to ever remarry, it would have to be before a judge. But ultimately, what does getting married gives more to the union? I mean, what presently holds me to my husband is my daughter, not the marriage it self. A short few months ago, I would have said that I would not have even wanted to live with any other man after hubby. But now, the situation is a bit different. That proves to me that i can't give a definite answer to that, because things change, people change. Right now though, i would live with the man i love, but probably wouldn't remarry unless it was very important to him, and it would be a very small thing. __________________

09-29-2008, 01:29 PM	#49
cherri Openly Defiant Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Indiana Age: 44 Posts: 1,111 Thanks: 110 Thanked 492 Times in 302 Posts	I admit to giving this question some serious thought. I'm still on my first marriage of eleven years. It's been in the crash and burn stage for two years. Believe it or not, I do miss being married. Having someone there, not sleeping on opposite edges of the bed, but really having someone there. I always said I believe in not making the same mistake twice. And I have a fear of going down that road again. But with the right person, that fear subsides, and the hope comes back. The hope that marriage can be a good thing when two people work together instead of against eachother. So my answer is ...yes, if it's with the right man. The right man being someone I can raise a family with. Someone I can grow old with. Someone I can trust to be there to love me and take care of me. If he didn't want to get married, then I would be content with playing house and living in sin. If he did want marriage, then I would consider it, but I would never push the issue. __________________ The fire which seems extinguished often slumbers beneath the ashes. ---Pierre Corneille, Rodogune