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Old 01-09-2014, 09:35 PM   #1
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A coworker said I was victim of an abusive spouse. I am wondering what defines mental abusive spouses?!

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Physically or mentally abusive?
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MENTAL....maybe I should have clarified that...sorry I am new!
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It's been brought to my attention as well.. That my husband is abusive.. Emotionally. Perhaps I'm just used to his behavior, so I don't think anything of it.. I don't have the answers for you, wish I did.
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It's been brought to my attention as well.. That my husband is abusive.. Emotionally. Perhaps I'm just used to his behavior, so I don't think anything of it.. I don't have the answers for you, wish I did.
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It's been brought to my attention as well.. That my husband is abusive.. Emotionally. Perhaps I'm just used to his behavior, so I don't think anything of it.. I don't have the answers for you, wish I did.
Correct when I sit high in the sky and explain things to a coworker....they look at me with pity and say I am married to an abusive spouse, working multiple jobs, cooking, meals, kids, all while they take loooong afternoon naps....I think may have something to do with it.....I cant even rest after my vasectomy!!!! Day #2 I had to do crap!!!
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Abuse can be in the form of physical or mental. Physical abuse is pretty self-explanatory....mental abuse from someone can be anything from constantly putting someone down, trying to control them or making them feel insignificant and worthless.
If that is happening, you should get counseling...and/or get out of that situation.
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Someone that tries to break your spirit, destroy your self esteem and make you feel worthless would to me be considered emotionally abusive.
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What does she do that causes your coworker to think so? Belittle, demean or threaten you? Many thinks can be a form of mental abuse.
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What does she do that causes your coworker to think so? Belittle, demean or threaten you? Many thinks can be a form of mental abuse.
She made him get a vasectomy, isn't that bad enough. He can't spread his seed throughout Michigan now.
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What does she do that causes your coworker to think so? Belittle, demean or threaten you? Many thinks can be a form of mental abuse.
I burden all the aspects of financial, kids, etc. Several people think she does not pull her weight....PMDD and anxiety can do this however....
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Correct when I sit high in the sky and explain things to a coworker....they look at me with pity and say I am married to an abusive spouse, working multiple jobs, cooking, meals, kids, all while they take loooong afternoon naps....I think may have something to do with it.....I cant even rest after my vasectomy!!!! Day #2 I had to do crap!!!
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She made him get a vasectomy, isn't that bad enough. He can't spread his seed throughout Michigan now.
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She made him get a vasectomy, isn't that bad enough. He can't spread his seed throughout Michigan now.
What is this Michigan you speak of? I thought only Texas was seedless
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Tex is seedless, not Texas.
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I burden all the aspects of financial, kids, etc. Several people think she does not pull her weight....PMDD and anxiety can do this however....
I had to Google PMDD. I guess she might have days where she feels as if she cannot function. Is she on medication to help her with symptoms? Was she like this before you got married? Is she screaming and throwing things at you?
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I burden all the aspects of financial, kids, etc. Several people think she does not pull her weight....PMDD and anxiety can do this however....
Well I did the same, but mine wasn't abusive he was just immature. Best of luck to you, but if you truly think you are abused I encourage you to seek assistance.
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oh no throwing....but PMDD is no joke. The situation would be much worse if I left.
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oh no throwing....but PMDD is no joke. The situation would be much worse if I left.
Well, you might have to take the good with the bad. Like Sunny said you might need to seek assistance if you think it is abuse.
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I had to Google PMDD. I guess she might have days where she feels as if she cannot function. Is she on medication to help her with symptoms? Was she like this before you got married? Is she screaming and throwing things at you?
much worse after kids.....much worse....
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Well, you might have to take the good with the bad. Like Sunny said you might need to seek assistance if you think it is abuse.
its more like she just cant handle life....but it is what it is and would be worse if I left...
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its more like she just cant handle life....but it is what it is and would be worse if I left...
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