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Old 09-07-2010, 04:11 PM   #1
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Hi. I am a newbie here, so my apologies if this subject has been beaten to death. Are there any circumstances in a marriage where one might justify to him/herself or to others extra-marital sex? I don't mean cybersex, which can also be discussed, but actual physical real life sex? Also, are there boundaries that one can keep within to not cross into "cheating"?
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Old 09-07-2010, 04:14 PM   #2
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Only until you get caught.
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Old 09-07-2010, 04:16 PM   #3
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oh my hub could most likely justify it... and his family would back him..
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Almost anything can be justified but that still does not necessarily make it right. I mean is your conscience clear at the end of the day? And how would you feel about yourself when shit hits the fan? IDK
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Old 09-07-2010, 04:46 PM   #5
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I call it a necessary evil but never justified.
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Old 09-07-2010, 04:55 PM   #6
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If you try hard enough you can justify anything.
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Old 09-07-2010, 05:03 PM   #7
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I'm not sure there are any boundaries that can keep actual, physical real-life sex from being cheating. But, I'm sure anyone who "cheats" and gets caught can justify it...or at least try real hard!
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trying hard enough to justify anything is called delusional.
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Old 09-07-2010, 05:16 PM   #9
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isn't what psychopaths do... they block it out ,or justify it .. I mean otherwise wouldn't you have a conscience?
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Is making your spouse miserable by holding out after you've gotten the ring justifiable?..just sayin'....

It's all in what your connscience will allow you to do, without guilt nagging at you. But, you'd better get your story straight in case you get caught, there will be some SERIOUS justification involved then......
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Old 09-07-2010, 06:22 PM   #11
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If I get busted I'm sure as hell gonna TRY to justify it. Don't know if it will fly.
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Any ladies wanna test the hypothesis?

Justified, maybe not. Rationalized, oh hell yeah.
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Old 09-07-2010, 06:30 PM   #13
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I'm pretty sure MY cheating can be justified, and just as sure that HIS cheating cannot...which pretty much adds up to "you're kidding yourself if you think its justifiable" but you're going to kid yourself into you're called out on the carpet. (Not directing the you to anyone in particular, btw...just a general statement.)
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Old 09-07-2010, 06:34 PM   #14
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Like everyone else has already said, anything can be justified. It's whether or not you choose to believe why they cheated.
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Old 09-07-2010, 06:45 PM   #15
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If youre thinking you cant justify it....dont even go there...otherwise..have fun
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there is never any good justification for cheating....unless you are only justifying it to yourself. That is life. So you have to make a decision. Can you live with the potential consequences. If yes....have fun. Otherwise think twice...before you make a move.
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I thought under my circumstances it was justified....but now that I am out of the marriage I feel I should have gotten the hell out sooner instead. So no it is never justified.
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From what I hear, not read, the Bible says the man is the head of the household, so in that case I say sure its justified, because I say so. She can do it too!
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Hi. I am a newbie here, so my apologies if this subject has been beaten to death. Are there any circumstances in a marriage where one might justify to him/herself or to others extra-marital sex? I don't mean cybersex, which can also be discussed, but actual physical real life sex? Also, are there boundaries that one can keep within to not cross into "cheating"?
There is no justification for cheating.

Hmm...boundaries that one can keep within so not to cross into "cheating"? That's simple....don't set yourself up.
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If you want to take it to the extreme, there's no justification for even being on this site. Just the fact that your here means that somethings not right in your relationship. If you seek satisfaction in any form then your cheating to some extent. Emotional, physical, intellectual or even spiritual satisfaction without your spouses consent or knowledge is a form of cheating.
Point being to do what you must and live with the results of your actions. There's nothing worse than being old, gray and full of regrets. Those are my thoughts anyway.
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Justifiable probably not...a necessity of consequence, probably so. But as a man, I cannot go months, even years without some type of sexual activity...I will find it somewhere.

That is why sites like this are so popular. Just my 2 cents.
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There is absolutely no justification for cheating. That being said we are all human. We want to be loved and cared for and feel needed. If we don't get that in our current relationship then we try to find it elsewhere. Walkin through life alone is not fun. You need someone to share it with. It would be nice to share it with the one your married to but that doesn't always happen.
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I would tend to say: MAN UP and live up to the consequences of your choices.

On the other hand, PA's post made me wonder... why is cheating worse than holding up on sex? Isn't part of the "contract" of marriage to have sex with your spouse?

Just wondering why one thing is so much worse than the other.
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If you want to take it to the extreme, there's no justification for even being on this site. Just the fact that your here means that somethings not right in your relationship. If you seek satisfaction in any form then your cheating to some extent. Emotional, physical, intellectual or even spiritual satisfaction without your spouses consent or knowledge is a form of cheating.
Point being to do what you must and live with the results of your actions. There's nothing worse than being old, gray and full of regrets. Those are my thoughts anyway.

That fear is what brought me here.
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