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Old 09-22-2006, 10:26 PM   #1
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Im a married male. Im trying to figure out how to get some sex going with women I may flirt with

I dont believe in not revealing im not married. In fact, I thinks its best to disclose early on.

The hard part is proposing the idea.....How is this done in a suave manner?

Or could I make the woman propose the idea?

My mind operates under the premise that if I start making a move they will think a dirtbag because im married.

Pls advise!
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Old 09-22-2006, 10:28 PM   #2
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Im a married male. Im trying to figure out how to get some sex going with women I may flirt with

I dont believe in not revealing im not married. In fact, I thinks its best to disclose early on.

The hard part is proposing the idea.....How is this done in a suave manner?

Or could I make the woman propose the idea?

My mind operates under the premise that if I start making a move they will think a dirtbag because im married.

Pls advise!
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Welcome to the site, Alga. This is an interesting question.

Are you looking for something ongoing? Or a one night stand? It sounds to me like you're looking for a "friend with benefits", in which case, I think you need to build on a friendship first and create a certain level of trust. Also, you'd probably be better off hooking up with a married woman. I say this because she'd have just as much to lose as you, and would most likely maintain some discretion. Also, she probably wouldn't be expecting you to leave your wife and run away with her.
I do have to ask though, why are you looking for someone else? Are you having marital problems? Are you and your wife mismatched sexually?
For many of us here, this site provides us with many of the thrills and excitement that an affair would offer, without the risk. For others, it's become even more than that. Stick around, read some posts, get to know us better, and tell us what you think.
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Im a married male. Im trying to figure out how to get some sex going with women I may flirt with

I dont believe in not revealing im not married. In fact, I thinks its best to disclose early on.

The hard part is proposing the idea.....How is this done in a suave manner?

Or could I make the woman propose the idea?

My mind operates under the premise that if I start making a move they will think a dirtbag because im married.

Pls advise!
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Old 09-22-2006, 11:48 PM   #5
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As is often the case...I agree with the articulate charming Jazzy
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...and you are relentlessly charming!

Glad you could join us tonight, Rhumba!

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...and you are relentlessly charming!

Glad you could join us tonight, Rhumba!
Thank you Jazzy I doubt I will be here long though
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Welcome to the site, Alga. This is an interesting question.

Are you looking for something ongoing? Or a one night stand? It sounds to me like you're looking for a "friend with benefits", in which case, I think you need to build on a friendship first and create a certain level of trust. Also, you'd probably be better off hooking up with a married woman. I say this because she'd have just as much to lose as you, and would most likely maintain some discretion. Also, she probably wouldn't be expecting you to leave your wife and run away with her.
I do have to ask though, why are you looking for someone else? Are you having marital problems? Are you and your wife mismatched sexually?
For many of us here, this site provides us with many of the thrills and excitement that an affair would offer, without the risk. For others, it's become even more than that. Stick around, read some posts, get to know us better, and tell us what you think.
Jazzy strikes the perfect chord, as usual!

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Im a married male. Im trying to figure out how to get some sex going with women I may flirt with
I dont believe in not revealing im not married. In fact, I thinks its best to disclose early on.
The hard part is proposing the idea.....How is this done in a suave manner?
Or could I make the woman propose the idea?
My mind operates under the premise that if I start making a move they will think a dirtbag because im married.
Pls advise!
Welcome hun...

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Old 09-23-2006, 05:28 AM   #10
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Old 09-23-2006, 10:42 AM   #11
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I think we all would concur with Jazzy. You need to figure out why you want this first. If it is just sex, there are other places better suited to that kind of encounter. Here, the members tend to grow together as friends, and occasionally more than that. If that is what you are looking for, the most important thing to remember is be yourself. The women here can tell when you are trying to be something that you are not, but that doesn't mean you can't flirt and talk about things you might like to have happen. You have to start slow though. Very few are interested in jumping right to the "bedroom" in chat and cybering. The fun here is in the chase, and you will have a lot of fun doing that!!!


Good luck and I hope you find what you want, whether it is here or somewhere else.

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I think we all would concur with Jazzy. You need to figure out why you want this first. If it is just sex, there are other places better suited to that kind of encounter. Here, the members tend to grow together as friends, and occasionally more than that. If that is what you are looking for, the most important thing to remember is be yourself. The women here can tell when you are trying to be something that you are not, but that doesn't mean you can't flirt and talk about things you might like to have happen. You have to start slow though. Very few are interested in jumping right to the "bedroom" in chat and cybering. The fun here is in the chase, and you will have a lot of fun doing that!!!


Good luck and I hope you find what you want, whether it is here or somewhere else.

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Exactly...the chase is the best part.
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You may be easy to catch, but how easy is it to hold on to you? Or do I have to pin you down?
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I havent done anything yet 1st of all. To answer why Im looking, its a combination of.... ok sex but not the best crazy sex with wife, my natural high levels of sexuality, Im still young and look good, etc

As for a sex friend, sure, someone you know longer term is good idea, and I do have several female friends.......

I honestly didnt sign up in this forum to look for women. I dont really look for women online. I signed up to ask married guys the question I asked earlier. Maybe Im in the wrong wesbsite?


To give you a little story: the other day I ran into this hot woman for the 3rd time in a 3rd different place. Total coincidence, we are not friends, nothing, I have simply recognized her 3 different times. The 3rd time, I could feel a little vibe from her. We spoke for a few minutes, and well, since in my mind I couldnt take it further because im married, we said bye. If I was single, I would have already have a date in place. So as a single person yes I would have known what to do.

But as a married person
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Welcome to the site, Alga. This is an interesting question.

Are you looking for something ongoing? Or a one night stand? It sounds to me like you're looking for a "friend with benefits", in which case, I think you need to build on a friendship first and create a certain level of trust. Also, you'd probably be better off hooking up with a married woman. I say this because she'd have just as much to lose as you, and would most likely maintain some discretion. Also, she probably wouldn't be expecting you to leave your wife and run away with her.
Damn!!! You been reading my playbook??
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(This is the male of Flamingo) Good question. My response is to stay away from women you both call "friends". That will only lead to trouble. If it's just a sex thing, yer best bet is a one-timer (but be careful). Even better, talk to yer wife about it. Might surprise you!!
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Flamingo I just bumped you two to Gold status You have been flying under the radar here for a long time
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You may be easy to catch, but how easy is it to hold on to you? Or do I have to pin you down?
Oh yeah...pin me down, I'm a wiggler
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I like the wiggling...how do I get you to do that some more?
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