Who depends on who

[gdgrl]

I heard this on the radio this morning. The question was posed.... Who do you depend on and who depends on you? The question made me think and I realized I depend on a couple of friends, but only when I am at my wits end. I don't really have anyone to depend on. Unfortunately, my husband misunderstands so much of me, I don't usually bother. I am not whining, just stating facts. Both my parents are gone, no more family, so I guess, I depend on me.

Then who depends on me. My husband does, this I know, I am his source for most everything. My kids are so big now, I miss they days they relied on me more. I know they still need me, but I don't see it in their eyes like when they were little. You know the look they give when they have a dirty diaper? lol

Sometimes being depended on is a good feeling, sometimes it can be smothering.

[JonJon62]

Gdgrl .. you start so many thought provoking threads ..

Let's see .. who do I depend upon. Well, I learned a while ago that there are really very few people that I can depend upon. Perhaps that is a shortfall of my being who I am. Thus, I rarely depend on anyone. If at all possible I try to do it myself. If not, well, I still try to do it myself.

Who depends on me? Wife, kids, step-kids, work family, wife's family.

Sometimes it's hard always being the responsible, helpful one ..

[gdgrl]

lol, How come people are always surprised I can actually have a deep thought?

Ok Jon, u are a do it yourselfer! Wonder how many of us there really are?

[Han Solo]

I depend on the government.....I'm a Democrat

OH!! Sorry....all those other threads got me brainwashed I spoze

[gdgrl]

Originally Posted by Han Solo

I depend on the government.....I'm a Democrat

OH!! Sorry....all those other threads got me brainwashed I spoze

Thanks for your input. I can see you are not into deep thoughts today. Miss your morning java?

[manda1]

Days can be crazy, and I can be at the end of my rope....but having my two little ones depend on me is what gives me life..they are my everything. I know this will not last forever..I am lucky if my 2 yr old lets me hold him anymore! So I am going to soak in every minute I have with them and go to the ends of the earth to put a smile on their cute little faces. I can say that I depend on them too. When my day is going crappy..they are the only ones that can make me feel better, they are the only ones that love me because of me and they don't ask for much. I am lucky enough to have a family that is always there for me...sometimes a little too much if you know what I mean , but life wouldn't be life without them. I do depend on them for so much....for unconditional love....and for picking up my kids from daycare while I'm at work! I always say how I don't need my husband, that I can make it without him but the truth is..he is a good guy. I certainly depend on him to do the laundry and wash the dishes

[Han Solo]

Originally Posted by gdgrlgnbd

Thanks for your input. I can see you are not into deep thoughts today. Miss your morning java?

Yes I did. Perhaps I jumped the gun too early....looking back I suppose that Post #4 was a bit too early for the Pallet Cleanser.........

I'll need a little more time to digest how deep to go with a response so I'll have to ponder on it awhile and get back to you.

[gdgrl]

Originally Posted by Han Solo

Yes I did. Perhaps I jumped the gun too early....looking back I suppose that Post #4 was a bit too early for the Pallet Cleanser.........

I'll need a little more time to digest how deep to go with a response so I'll have to ponder on it awhile and get back to you.

Well, I can see u are dependent on coffee!! Go get a double shot and get back to us later.

[jmsmith12345]

I depend on so many people in so many ways that it is just staggering.

For my life and health, I depend on a team of doctors, nurses, techs, and counselors

For my emotional, physical, and spiritual well being on a daily basis, I depend on my wife, my daughter, and a few very close friends

For just taking care of what needs to be done, I depend on me...a lot

For fun and some support, I depend on lots of friends here

For my financial well being, I depend on Uncle Sam...as I work for the govt, and my own investing/saving

As for who depends on me...beyond my wife, my daughter, family, friends, coworkers, customers, and a host of other people I do volunteer efforts for...nobody.

[JonJon62]

Originally Posted by gdgrlgnbd

lol, How come people are always surprised I can actually have a deep thought?

Ok Jon, u are a do it yourselfer! Wonder how many of us there really are?

Wow .. I didn't mean to infer that you can't deep think, or go deep, or oh heck. Maybe I need to go back and take an English as a second language course .. :

Well, do it yourselfers need to unite!!! You don't even want to know how many times I've hurt myself trying to do something by myself that I shouldn't have.

You know, it guess it's in my nature to offer help to those that I see that could use it. However, sometimes it would be nice if someone simply offered to help without having to be asked. Does that make any sense at all? I mean if someone cares for you, wouldn't they want to offer, or am I simply being too simple-minded? Perhaps that question doesn't need to be answered ..

[gdgrl]

Originally Posted by JonJon62

Wow .. I didn't mean to infer that you can't deep think, or go deep, or oh heck. Maybe I need to go back and take an English as a second language course .. :

Well, do it yourselfers need to unite!!! You don't even want to know how many times I've hurt myself trying to do something by myself that I shouldn't have.

You know, it guess it's in my nature to offer help to those that I see that could use it. However, sometimes it would be nice if someone simply offered to help without having to be asked. Does that make any sense at all? I mean if someone cares for you, wouldn't they want to offer, or am I simply being too simple-minded? Perhaps that question doesn't need to be answered ..

No, u are fine, I was being a smart ass. I know, shocking...

Pride gets in the way of asking sometimes. I think if we need it we should reach out and ask. So many people these days, try alone and fail.

[JonJon62]

Originally Posted by gdgrlgnbd

No, u are fine, I was being a smart ass. I know, shocking...

Pride gets in the way of asking sometimes. I think if we need it we should reach out and ask. So many people these days, try alone and fail.

Now I'm a failure ... geesh .. this keeps getting better and better ..

[gdgrl]

Originally Posted by JonJon62

Now I'm a failure ... geesh .. this keeps getting better and better ..

Nooooo, I meant people who need help emotionally and do the unthinkable. I always wonder if there was something anyone could have done?

U know u are not a failure, geesh!

[dixiechiknga]

I do everything myself and never reply on anyone for help.

[Violet]

Sometimes I like to think that I don't depend on anyone for anything, but that's not true. I depend on lots of people. And I'm glad I do because my life would be very lonely if I didn't.
I depend on my kids for unconditional love...
I depend on my friends and family for advice and support...
I depend on my husband for his help with the kids and with chores around the house... and financially of course.

The people I depend on also depend on me for many of the same things...
My kids get my unconditional love... as well of all of their daily needs taken care of.
My friends and family come to me when they need support and advice.
And my husband depends on me in return... financially, with my help raising the kids, and to get things done around the house.

[fondew2004]

I depend on me...

My former spouse earned no income, produced nothing, consumed without a care, expected/demanded that I produce, accused me of always having a "negative" outlook on life because I was (and still am) continually preparing for the worst, and offered little or no physical "comfort".

[cherri]

I don't depend on my kids for anything, I love them for who they are. There is nothing they need to do, or conditions they need to meet. I get joy and happiness at just being their Mom.

I depend on my doctor to take care of me when I am sick. I don't depend on my husband to do so, he just gets angry at me. I guess, because I can't make dinner and do laundry & all the house work when sick. To my amazement, my child was right. My doctor looked at my son and asked him who takes care of him when he is sick? He said "Mommy!" Then my doctor asked him, who takes care of Mommy when she's sick? My son, looked at him and said, "You do!"

For love, attention, afffection, emotional support, and sex.........I depend on the boyfriend. For some odd reason, he is taking care of all those needs. Never once asking me for more than what I can give. I am truly grateful for all that he does give me. I only hope I am doing him as much good as he is doing for me.

What I do depend on my husband for........a paycheck! How demeaning is that? I didn't want it to be that way, but that is what it's been reduced to. One thing. Once upon a time, he was so much more. Worth more to me than money itself.

[melbrook]

I depend on my mom to help with the kids. I depend on my husband for money.

My kids depend on me since they are still little and my husband depends on me to take care of all the house work.

[Curiousoneonly]

In all honesty I do not depend on anyone but myself. Frankly, I really don't want to depend on anyone.

[Rex]

I depend on no one. My wife & kids need me for support.
My life insurance is hefty enough for them to get along without me.

I could get along on my own if I chose to.

[pointofnoreturn]

I depend on myself for most anything. But....I hae a couple of friendsthat I really do depend on to listen to me when I am sad or hurt. They can listen, but not fix my problems, soooooooooooooo I depend mainly on me. And my cats!!! Who depends on me??? Hubby, Work, Family, Friends, I am there when they need me. Now after thinkin g about this....I think everyone depends on themselves. If you asked the ones you saydepend on you, they may say the same thing. Now I am confused.

[gdgrl]

Originally Posted by rex194

I depend on no one. My wife & kids need me for support.
My life insurance is hefty enough for them to get along without me.

I could get along on my own if I chose to.

It is nice to be needed sometimes, no? I mean we all should be self sufficient, I agree. But, nothing compares to consoling hugs and shoulders to cry on.

JMO!

[redcat]

In our family, as I suspect in most, we each have our strengths and weaknesses. Where one is strong, another may not be, etc. So, it works pretty well, for the most part. There are some things I'd like to see changed, but it won't happen today.

Like it or not, I think, in some way or other, we find ourselves depending upon another person. We may want to do it all ourselves and even try...but "no man is an island".

[glamourgirl]

i am fiercely independent-most of the time... however i have three girlfriends that i depend on. They are all strong women and not afraid to call me on the carpet and they listen when i rant. My children, are mostly grown and independent but still depend on me to be there for them....(i hope that never changes)...

[OnceAKing]

Originally Posted by gdgrlgnbd

I heard this on the radio this morning. The question was posed.... Who do you depend on and who depends on you? The question made me think and I realized I depend on a couple of friends, but only when I am at my wits end. I don't really have anyone to depend on. Unfortunately, my husband misunderstands so much of me, I don't usually bother. I am not whining, just stating facts. Both my parents are gone, no more family, so I guess, I depend on me.

Then who depends on me. My husband does, this I know, I am his source for most everything. My kids are so big now, I miss they days they relied on me more. I know they still need me, but I don't see it in their eyes like when they were little. You know the look they give when they have a dirty diaper? lol

Sometimes being depended on is a good feeling, sometimes it can be smothering.

Awwwww, if you could just see JM...he looks at every woman like that...