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Sandy · 09-01-2006, 08:25 AM

Ok, shane came home from school yesterday, and told us he had been threatened at school. pretty normal stuff for teen-age boys. but heres the catch. the other boy was bringing a gun to school. to go after shane, we reported it. I also kept shane home today. hes pissed says mom is to over-protecive. what do you guys think ?

Annie · 09-01-2006, 08:40 AM

Oh Sandy! That's a tough one! You know this is one of those questions that unless you are actually in that situation it's hard to know what we might do. I want to think that I would send my son to school and be able to trust that the authorities would be able to control the situation... but in the back of mind there's a nagging feeling that I wouldn't have the trust thing down well enough and he would be at home with me.

The one thing I do trust is that you are doing what's best for you and yours. I know that you are a good and loving mother, full of common sense. Your son is lucky to have such a good mother.

CuriousGeorge · 09-01-2006, 08:55 AM

Sandy, You absolutely did the right thing! Hopefully the authorities will take the threat seriously and deal with it. I also think it was wise to keep your son home for a day. That doesn't guarantee the problem won't still be there when he gets back, but at least the other guy will have some time to cool off.

If you think you're being over-protective, consider this: Many parents would seriously consider transfering their child to another school over something like this.

Shiane · 09-01-2006, 09:03 AM

Unfortunately in this day and age kids do bring guns to school to settle disputes. The problem is knowing if the kid was serious. Reporting it was the right thing to do, you can't be too cautious when it comes to your kids. Keeping him home, well I would have done the same thing. I would also follow up on this to make sure the other kid is punished!

Shiane · 09-01-2006, 09:28 AM

Ya know kids these days just shock the hell out of me. This past spring my 6 yr old who was in kindergarten came home telling me about this little girl who was mad at her over a little boy liking my daughter instead of her. I was like well hun don't worry about it, just don't be friends with her. I thought the matter was over. Later that afternoon the phone rings and my youngest daughter answers it, but I had picked up the other phone. I hear this 6 yr old threatening my daughter, just being a snotty little bitch. My daughter is sitting there listening, she has no clue how to respond. But, mom does lol pissed off goes all over me, the nerve of her to call my house!

I said you little shit, you picked the wrong kid to mess with. Don't you ever call my house again! You better get to hateful ass off this phone right this minute, and you can tell you momma exactly what I said. She was still on the phone silently in shock i'm sure lol and I yelled at her get your ass off this damn phone and don't you ever call back! She never gave my daughter another ounce of grief.

She was 6 yrs old for crying out loud! How does a 6 yr old get so freakin mean! I'm tellin you some kids these days are really screwed up!

Penny · 09-01-2006, 10:21 AM

Id keep him home till the other kid was in jail

spare_change · 09-01-2006, 11:32 AM

Wow!!! I don't even understand the question!

There is a kid at school with a gun --- end of story.

Turn his ass in -- tell your son to shut up and thank his lucky stars that you care enough to do what you have to do -- you have a responsibility, not only to your son but to the 500 other kids in that school. If you have to, get 100 other parents, go to school and you take it away from him. If you have to, you get 1000 parents and you sit on the school steps until the problem is resolved. The threat MUST be removed.

There is no time for Mr. Nice Guy. You do what you have to do because you HAVE to do it. Penny is right -- I would not send my son back out to get killed, and until the threat is eliminated, that is the potential.

That's coming from a guy in the state where Columbine happened.

Sandy · 09-01-2006, 12:02 PM

thanks everybody, he was picked up this morning, so i feel better about that.

Norfolkdave · 09-01-2006, 12:49 PM

I agree with Penny keep him home love. Sadly we never had children but I would be protective to my son.

Willy S · 09-01-2006, 01:30 PM

You did the right thing, Sandy.

Jy · 09-01-2006, 01:34 PM

Holy jumpin' Sandy! There's no question in my mind that you did the right thing. We're not talking about a little pushing around on the playground here! We're talking about a gun! I'd rather have my son alive, griping about losing face with his buddies than lying dead in the school parking lot.

Big O · 09-01-2006, 03:13 PM

I would have kept my son home in a heartbeat! Sandy you definatly did the right thing!

Itshardon-theroad · 09-01-2006, 05:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Sandy

Ok, shane came home from school yesterday, and told us he had been threatened at school. pretty normal stuff for teen-age boys. but heres the catch. the other boy was bringing a gun to school. to go after shane, we reported it. I also kept shane home today. hes pissed says mom is to over-protecive. what do you guys think ?

You did the right thing. My cousin had something similar happen, but when he took a bat out of his car to defend himself the school resource officer arrested him. My cousin got kicked out of school, the other kid didn't because they didn't search him.

Best thing to do is let the grown-ups handle it. There was a time when I would have said let the kid sort it out for himself. But when kids in elementary school have been found toting guns, the best thing you can do is report it and keep your kid at home until the other kid goes to jail.

cherokeered · 09-01-2006, 07:03 PM

You did the right thing hun....

You're his mother....its your job to protect him...

I just dont understand what is happening with the kids of today...why is a human life worth so little to them..no respect for anyone, including themselves apparently...So much anger, self-destructive behavior and disrespect out there...its sad...very sad...

milf2000 · 09-01-2006, 08:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Sandy

Ok, shane came home from school yesterday, and told us he had been threatened at school. pretty normal stuff for teen-age boys. but heres the catch. the other boy was bringing a gun to school. to go after shane, we reported it. I also kept shane home today. hes pissed says mom is to over-protecive. what do you guys think ?

yes sandy you did the right thing. i work at a child care center and last summer a 5th grade boy brought a gun to the center with no staff members knowing. he then proceeded to go to school and was caught there. he was kicked out of school and the center for the last 2 days of school. we gave the boy a second chance and he lost it. the director, my mom, yelled at him for breaking a toy, so he decided to draw a threatening picture of himself shooting my mom in the head. he put my daughter and other children in harms way just because he was pissed off. he was kicked out of the center and reported to the superintendent of the school immediately. the superintendent reported him to the police and he was placed in a school for behavoiral problems.

protecting your child's life is more important than to risk it. being over-protective could be good or bad but in this case it probably saved his life!

Sandy · 09-01-2006, 08:35 PM

thanks guys, i believe i did also, hes not mad anymore, i finally got him to cool off, and listen to me, now he understands better

hoss · 09-02-2006, 01:15 AM

you did the right thing...no doubt about it...if he had a gun,u may have saved a life,your sons as well as anyone else hes threatned...maybe his parents had no idea he was doing this...well they do now...maybe this is a wake up call for them...

if it was my son i would have kept him home to...

momma's nephew was on the front page of the paper this year...stabbed and robbed a kid...parents didnt have a clue...until the mom opened the paper sunday morning....

Momma · 09-02-2006, 01:55 AM

I'm glad that the little chicken shit kid was picked up....and that's what I consider people like that to be....they have to hide their own cowardess behind a gun...

I'm also glad that your son isn't mad anymore....he's obviously one smart kid to realise his Mom was only doing what she could at the time...and that was to protect the ones she loves....hope everything turns out ok for you guy's....

Good to Find (M) · 09-02-2006, 02:07 AM

There's nothing over-protective about what you did . . . the gun stuff is serious. This isn't something that you let kids work out on their own. Sorry this happened and my sincere wishes that the whole thing straightens out

Penny · 09-02-2006, 12:28 PM

Get a restraing order against him before he gets out

Annie · 09-02-2006, 12:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Penny

Get a restraing order against him before he gets out

That's good advice!

hoss · 09-02-2006, 12:59 PM

i was thinking about this last nite annie...,do u think this punk singled out your son because he has a learning disorder like ours....Aharon goes into middle school next week,i am a little nervous that the kids will single him out.....the one thing he has going for him is his size... but...he is very innocent and thinks everyone is a nice person....he does have alot of friends going to ,but its the older kids i worry about..

Sandy · 09-02-2006, 01:02 PM

no it wasn't because of that, he and shane have had their differnces before, i'm not worried about him getting out, because he has to deal with his dad. he doesn't want to get out i should say, when they conntacted the parents, the boy begged to be behind bars before his dad showed up

hoss · 09-02-2006, 01:05 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sandy

no it wasn't because of that, he and shane have had their differnces before, i'm not worried about him getting out, because he has to deal with his dad. he doesn't want to get out i should say, when they conntacted the parents, the boy begged to be behind bars before his dad showed up

GOOD !!!....we dont have alot of problems with guns or violence in schools,but i can remember how i got picked on because of my size...guess i worry to much..

glad things worked out for you......maybe someone reading this will have more courage to do what you did....WAY TO GO !!!

Sandy · 09-02-2006, 01:06 PM

thank you hoss, what we need are parents who listen to their kids, and watch out for stuff like this

09-01-2006, 08:25 AM	#1
Sandy Flirting Goddess Join Date: Aug 2005 Age: 45 Posts: 12,908 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Ok Guys Need Your Help Again Ok, shane came home from school yesterday, and told us he had been threatened at school. pretty normal stuff for teen-age boys. but heres the catch. the other boy was bringing a gun to school. to go after shane, we reported it. I also kept shane home today. hes pissed says mom is to over-protecive. what do you guys think ?

09-01-2006, 08:40 AM	#2
Annie Site Lunatic Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: gone crazy, back later.... Age: 53 Posts: 10,409 Thanks: 154 Thanked 85 Times in 50 Posts	Oh Sandy! That's a tough one! You know this is one of those questions that unless you are actually in that situation it's hard to know what we might do. I want to think that I would send my son to school and be able to trust that the authorities would be able to control the situation... but in the back of mind there's a nagging feeling that I wouldn't have the trust thing down well enough and he would be at home with me. The one thing I do trust is that you are doing what's best for you and yours. I know that you are a good and loving mother, full of common sense. Your son is lucky to have such a good mother. __________________ "A lot of things wrong with society today are directly attributable to the fact that the people who make the laws are sexually maladjusted." ~Frank Zappa

09-01-2006, 09:03 AM	#4
Shiane Flirting God Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Just hangin out with friends Age: 41 Posts: 6,502 Thanks: 61 Thanked 117 Times in 70 Posts Blog Entries: 1	Unfortunately in this day and age kids do bring guns to school to settle disputes. The problem is knowing if the kid was serious. Reporting it was the right thing to do, you can't be too cautious when it comes to your kids. Keeping him home, well I would have done the same thing. I would also follow up on this to make sure the other kid is punished! __________________ Put your big girl panties on and deal with it!

09-01-2006, 09:28 AM	#5
Shiane Flirting God Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Just hangin out with friends Age: 41 Posts: 6,502 Thanks: 61 Thanked 117 Times in 70 Posts Blog Entries: 1	Ya know kids these days just shock the hell out of me. This past spring my 6 yr old who was in kindergarten came home telling me about this little girl who was mad at her over a little boy liking my daughter instead of her. I was like well hun don't worry about it, just don't be friends with her. I thought the matter was over. Later that afternoon the phone rings and my youngest daughter answers it, but I had picked up the other phone. I hear this 6 yr old threatening my daughter, just being a snotty little bitch. My daughter is sitting there listening, she has no clue how to respond. But, mom does lol pissed off goes all over me, the nerve of her to call my house! I said you little shit, you picked the wrong kid to mess with. Don't you ever call my house again! You better get to hateful ass off this phone right this minute, and you can tell you momma exactly what I said. She was still on the phone silently in shock i'm sure lol and I yelled at her get your ass off this damn phone and don't you ever call back! She never gave my daughter another ounce of grief. She was 6 yrs old for crying out loud! How does a 6 yr old get so freakin mean! I'm tellin you some kids these days are really screwed up! __________________ Put your big girl panties on and deal with it!

09-01-2006, 10:21 AM	#6
Penny Proprietor Join Date: May 2005 Location: USA Age: 47 Posts: 11,907 My Mood: Thanks: 348 Thanked 824 Times in 373 Posts Blog Entries: 2	Id keep him home till the other kid was in jail __________________ Donations For MAFC AshleyMadison.com Dirty Sex Friend Video Chat With Live Women

09-01-2006, 08:55 AM	#3
CuriousGeorge Flirting God Join Date: Aug 2006 Age: 35 Posts: 652 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Sandy, You absolutely did the right thing! Hopefully the authorities will take the threat seriously and deal with it. I also think it was wise to keep your son home for a day. That doesn't guarantee the problem won't still be there when he gets back, but at least the other guy will have some time to cool off. If you think you're being over-protective, consider this: Many parents would seriously consider transfering their child to another school over something like this.

09-01-2006, 11:32 AM	#7
spare_change Purveyor of Perversion Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Colorado Age: 63 Posts: 16,702 My Mood: Thanks: 192 Thanked 731 Times in 419 Posts Blog Entries: 5	Wow!!! I don't even understand the question! There is a kid at school with a gun --- end of story. Turn his ass in -- tell your son to shut up and thank his lucky stars that you care enough to do what you have to do -- you have a responsibility, not only to your son but to the 500 other kids in that school. If you have to, get 100 other parents, go to school and you take it away from him. If you have to, you get 1000 parents and you sit on the school steps until the problem is resolved. The threat MUST be removed. There is no time for Mr. Nice Guy. You do what you have to do because you HAVE to do it. Penny is right -- I would not send my son back out to get killed, and until the threat is eliminated, that is the potential. That's coming from a guy in the state where Columbine happened. __________________ "It does not take a majority to prevail ... but rather an irate, tireless minority, keen on setting brushfires of freedom in the minds of men." --Samuel Adams Last edited by spare_change; 09-01-2006 at 11:35 AM.

09-01-2006, 12:02 PM	#8
Sandy Flirting Goddess Join Date: Aug 2005 Age: 45 Posts: 12,908 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	thanks everybody, he was picked up this morning, so i feel better about that.

09-01-2006, 12:49 PM	#9
Norfolkdave I'm Being Punished Join Date: Jun 2005 Age: 63 Posts: 684 Thanks: 0 Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post	I agree with Penny keep him home love. Sadly we never had children but I would be protective to my son.

09-01-2006, 01:30 PM	#10
Willy S No Hero Join Date: Oct 2005 Age: 55 Posts: 5,814 My Mood: Thanks: 68 Thanked 99 Times in 93 Posts	You did the right thing, Sandy.

09-01-2006, 01:34 PM	#11
Jy Retired Join Date: Sep 2005 Posts: 11,264 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Holy jumpin' Sandy! There's no question in my mind that you did the right thing. We're not talking about a little pushing around on the playground here! We're talking about a gun! I'd rather have my son alive, griping about losing face with his buddies than lying dead in the school parking lot.

09-01-2006, 03:13 PM	#12
Big O Flirting God Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: no shirt...no shoes....no problem.... Age: 54 Posts: 12,514 My Mood: Thanks: 463 Thanked 837 Times in 670 Posts	I would have kept my son home in a heartbeat! Sandy you definatly did the right thing!

09-01-2006, 07:03 PM	#14
cherokeered this space for rent Join Date: Apr 2006 Age: 48 Posts: 28,031 Thanks: 259 Thanked 801 Times in 605 Posts	You did the right thing hun.... You're his mother....its your job to protect him... I just dont understand what is happening with the kids of today...why is a human life worth so little to them..no respect for anyone, including themselves apparently...So much anger, self-destructive behavior and disrespect out there...its sad...very sad...

09-01-2006, 08:35 PM	#16
Sandy Flirting Goddess Join Date: Aug 2005 Age: 45 Posts: 12,908 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	thanks guys, i believe i did also, hes not mad anymore, i finally got him to cool off, and listen to me, now he understands better

09-02-2006, 01:15 AM	#17
hoss Flirting God Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: in my head ...the real world scares me Age: 48 Posts: 9,976 My Mood: Thanks: 29 Thanked 60 Times in 43 Posts Blog Entries: 4	you did the right thing...no doubt about it...if he had a gun,u may have saved a life,your sons as well as anyone else hes threatned...maybe his parents had no idea he was doing this...well they do now...maybe this is a wake up call for them... if it was my son i would have kept him home to... momma's nephew was on the front page of the paper this year...stabbed and robbed a kid...parents didnt have a clue...until the mom opened the paper sunday morning.... __________________ Nothing in life compares to being a father

09-02-2006, 01:55 AM	#18
Momma Forum Leader Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Always on your mind Age: 40 Posts: 10,157 My Mood: Thanks: 66 Thanked 45 Times in 23 Posts	I'm glad that the little chicken shit kid was picked up....and that's what I consider people like that to be....they have to hide their own cowardess behind a gun... I'm also glad that your son isn't mad anymore....he's obviously one smart kid to realise his Mom was only doing what she could at the time...and that was to protect the ones she loves....hope everything turns out ok for you guy's....

09-02-2006, 02:07 AM	#19
Good to Find (M) Super Flirt Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: CA Age: 51 Posts: 221 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	There's nothing over-protective about what you did . . . the gun stuff is serious. This isn't something that you let kids work out on their own. Sorry this happened and my sincere wishes that the whole thing straightens out

09-02-2006, 12:28 PM	#20
Penny Proprietor Join Date: May 2005 Location: USA Age: 47 Posts: 11,907 My Mood: Thanks: 348 Thanked 824 Times in 373 Posts Blog Entries: 2	Get a restraing order against him before he gets out __________________ Donations For MAFC AshleyMadison.com Dirty Sex Friend Video Chat With Live Women

09-02-2006, 12:59 PM	#22
hoss Flirting God Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: in my head ...the real world scares me Age: 48 Posts: 9,976 My Mood: Thanks: 29 Thanked 60 Times in 43 Posts Blog Entries: 4	i was thinking about this last nite annie...,do u think this punk singled out your son because he has a learning disorder like ours....Aharon goes into middle school next week,i am a little nervous that the kids will single him out.....the one thing he has going for him is his size... but...he is very innocent and thinks everyone is a nice person....he does have alot of friends going to ,but its the older kids i worry about.. __________________ Nothing in life compares to being a father

09-02-2006, 01:02 PM	#23
Sandy Flirting Goddess Join Date: Aug 2005 Age: 45 Posts: 12,908 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	no it wasn't because of that, he and shane have had their differnces before, i'm not worried about him getting out, because he has to deal with his dad. he doesn't want to get out i should say, when they conntacted the parents, the boy begged to be behind bars before his dad showed up

09-02-2006, 01:06 PM	#25
Sandy Flirting Goddess Join Date: Aug 2005 Age: 45 Posts: 12,908 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	thank you hoss, what we need are parents who listen to their kids, and watch out for stuff like this